Tweet20-11-2009 om 12:00 by Sueli Brodin
The loneliest time of my life in the Maastricht Region must have been the period when my two first children were still very small and I was a mother at home in my little village. This was before the time of the internet and there were not many opportunities for interaction with the outside world. The irony is that it had been my own decision to quit my job to become a full time mother. I was even looking forward to being fully immersed in a Dutch environment. I thought that it would be the perfect chance to experience what it was like to live among the Dutch.
But as it turned out, I quickly realised that it was not so easy to meet people in the streets or at the local playgrounds, which were often deserted. So the days felt long and instead of feeling more Dutch, I increasingly yearned for anything foreign.
Then I met a Japanese woman who introduced me to the International Women’s Club of South Limburg. From that moment on, and for quite a few years, especially after I started working again, almost all the people I spent time with were foreigners. The number of Dutch friends I had could be counted on one hand.
Something felt awkward and a bit crooked. Would my social life forever continue to be restricted to the foreign community? Deep inside I knew that this status quo wasn’t going to give me the long term balance I was looking for.
I can’t pinpoint exactly when things changed but when I look at my life now, the two worlds finally seem to have merged: is it thanks to all the new channels for social communication and interaction that the internet has made possible? Is it because of my work, which brings me into contact with not only foreigners, but also a growing number of Dutch people? Is it because of the fact that local authorities themselves have become more aware of and interested in the international community living in the region?
The two-day Maastricht Global event held this week by Maastricht Debates in association with COS Limburg (Centre for International Cooperation Limburg), is a good example of an open platform where Dutch and non-Dutch with a common interest in globalisation and development matters were able to meet and exchange views with knowledgeable speakers. Without leaving Maastricht, I felt as if I had travelled across the planet with all my senses – through the topics of the debates, the films and video clips that were shown and discussed, the wide variety of nationalities and experiences represented in the audience, the exotic food that was served and the world music that was played at the end of both evenings.

The conversation I had on the second evening over Afrikana’s tasty dinner with Dutch geographer and film maker Joshka Wessels stands out as a highlight.
The way we first “met” is actually telling of the internet age we are living in. Our initial contact took place in the virtual world via Twitter - we were both tweeting about our activities in the Maastricht region - and started “following” each other. When I tweeted that I going to attend the debates at AINSI, Joshka immediately suggested us to “tweet up”.
She came to Maastricht Debates with her Palestinian cameraman Saed Abu Hmud and the three of us lengthily talked about their current film project, which deals with the subject of water, “the most precious commodity in the thirsty Middle East”. When I told them that my Dutch husband and I had met on a kibbutz in Israel in the early 1990’s, Saed surprised me by spontaneously switching to Hebrew. He also said that he was planning to learn Dutch and it shouldn’t be too difficult, since Joshka could speak Syrian Arabic.
What attracts me to events and platforms such as Maastricht Debates, or Pecha Kucha Night Maastricht, is that they bring people together who wish to look beyond what seemingly separates them. Nationalities and languages are no longer perceived as obstacles because communication and interaction take place on a different level.

As I drove back home with the sounds of the West African percussion band Indumbe still ringing in my ears, I entertained the hope that the antagonism that is commonly made between the “international” and the “local Dutch” communities would eventually become obsolete and that the Maastricht Region would soon distinguish itself instead by a growing and all inclusive international climate.
Comments
21-11-2009 at 13:05
I'm wondering... if your little village would have been located somewhere in France, Brasil or Japan, would you have been happier and less isolated?
To my opinion, there is no real antagonism between "Dutch" and "foreigner or expat". "Progressive and world orientated" versus "conservative, local orientated", would be more appropriate. Internet, the University of Maastricht and the International Women's club are probably excellent ways to get in touch with the progressive international community.
It is like Sasja said: do not consider yourself as "Dutch" or "expat", just make friends!
20-11-2009 at 12:53
Hi Sasja, maybe my mistake was to stop working entirely after my children were born. I think that it's easier to have and keep making new social contacts when you're studying or working or when you have more time to go out...
20-11-2009 at 12:20
It's funny how it took you so long to get more Dutch friends. The majority of my friends in the Netherlands is Dutch. Now, that I started dancing salsa I meet more expats. I never considered myself as an expat and maybe that's the reason for me not getting to know many foreigners in the Netherlands.
Leave a reply
Sueli Brodin has been living in the Maastricht Region since 1994. She is the website editor for the European Journalism Centre (EJC) in Maastricht and produces the EJC's daily Media News digest. She is also a team member of PechaKucha Night Maastricht, an informal English-language initiative where creative people get together and present their ideas in a concise format. View Sueli's video portrait on www.zuidlimburg.nl.
2012
January- The beauty of silence29-01-2012 at 21:52
- Happiness is...22-01-2012 at 16:59
2011
December- Merry Christmas, in English23-12-2011 at 23:32
November- Magic words27-11-2011 at 22:57
October- A visit to Maastricht Aachen Airport29-10-2011 at 22:06
September- Spelt, the taste of an ancient grain20-09-2011 at 08:30
August- Lifting borders29-08-2011 at 08:09
- Meeting up with Dutch friends in the south of France16-08-2011 at 20:56
July- A visit to the International Newspaper Museum in Aachen22-07-2011 at 16:58
- Weekend with my daughters11-07-2011 at 09:35
- Our children's future01-07-2011 at 10:06
June- International May Fair at GaiaPark19-06-2011 at 15:26
Mai- Fasten your seatbelts21-05-2011 at 13:46
- Wild green asparagus and white strawberry15-05-2011 at 18:19
- Swim or sleep?08-05-2011 at 00:27
- Like-minded people01-05-2011 at 12:10
April- Turkish delight23-04-2011 at 15:38
- Learning to serve at United World College Maastricht17-04-2011 at 22:48
- The story of Crossroads10-04-2011 at 14:09
- Expat Award04-04-2011 at 09:49
March- My highlights of TEFAF 201127-03-2011 at 22:11
- Celebrating the Hindu Holi Spring Festival in Maastricht21-03-2011 at 09:42
- From Russia with love13-03-2011 at 00:30
- Young entrepreneurs 06-03-2011 at 12:22
February- The monkey who did not fancy bananas26-02-2011 at 00:01
- Jour de Fête18-02-2011 at 16:42
- Where are you from and what has brought you to Maastricht?12-02-2011 at 14:34
- Open Day at the Free School in Maastricht05-02-2011 at 13:28
January- Tim's drawing lessons28-01-2011 at 19:29
- Serious Beans and Pop Music in Maastricht21-01-2011 at 21:38
- A night out with friends at the theatre16-01-2011 at 01:09
- Tipiti the Robin07-01-2011 at 17:52
2010
December- Le Grand Curtius31-12-2010 at 15:37
- When rules are made to be broken27-12-2010 at 12:03
- Officially a Limburger18-12-2010 at 00:21
- Total education10-12-2010 at 23:10
- The good kids get candy03-12-2010 at 23:21
November- An American week27-11-2010 at 15:31
- Playing with words19-11-2010 at 16:26
- The strange appeal of Kees, Teun and Roos12-11-2010 at 16:28
- Talking it out07-11-2010 at 01:16
October- X Magazine for Xpats29-10-2010 at 16:59
- Can the French learn from the Dutch?22-10-2010 at 20:53
- Coffee anyone?16-10-2010 at 01:08
- Why not08-10-2010 at 10:35
- Belonging01-10-2010 at 00:32
September- Long live journalism25-09-2010 at 16:40
- Reaching out17-09-2010 at 13:15
- A smooth birth10-09-2010 at 09:23
- Home is..03-09-2010 at 13:23
July- Tupi or not Tupi in Nattenhoven30-07-2010 at 08:48
- Parasites and mosquito bites23-07-2010 at 12:26
- Friendship is...16-07-2010 at 00:03
- The underground bomb shelter in Maastricht09-07-2010 at 17:01
- Going barefoot02-07-2010 at 00:11
June- The Day and Nightingale25-06-2010 at 14:09
- Tour d'Eifel18-06-2010 at 12:12
- Media Reporters11-06-2010 at 12:00
- Colourful and stimulating days in Maastricht04-06-2010 at 14:53
Mai- A weekend in the polder28-05-2010 at 17:47
- Swimming like the Dutch21-05-2010 at 13:07
- Francophonie14-05-2010 at 12:39
- My father’s fascination for Japan07-05-2010 at 09:19
April- Unspoiled29-04-2010 at 23:29
- Adieu to Sjo23-04-2010 at 09:07
- “Under the Maastricht sky, our school”16-04-2010 at 09:47
- Jogging on the dike09-04-2010 at 11:58
- The gentle way02-04-2010 at 11:47
March- Expat of the Year26-03-2010 at 15:43
- Asian tunes on Mount St Pieter19-03-2010 at 08:54
- NCRV, AVRO, VARA or VPRO?12-03-2010 at 10:41
- International Women's Club South Limburg: on the way to gold!05-03-2010 at 08:14
February- Susan's gift26-02-2010 at 12:09
- Small talk19-02-2010 at 11:30
- Looking ahead12-02-2010 at 15:20
- Onbekend maakt onbemind: Unknown, unloved05-02-2010 at 14:16
January- Green energy29-01-2010 at 12:47
- Telephone stress22-01-2010 at 12:04
- Time travelling with Suske and Wiske 15-01-2010 at 14:27
- Language in limbo08-01-2010 at 12:12
- A Dutch New Year's Eve01-01-2010 at 15:52
2009
December- Wanderlust and Christmas trees25-12-2009 at 00:07
- The spirit of Mottainai18-12-2009 at 14:00
- Dutch bread blues11-12-2009 at 01:37
- The more we get together...04-12-2009 at 11:46
November- How old is Sinterklaas?26-11-2009 at 23:25
- The world is not enough20-11-2009 at 12:00
- Romans roads and European dreams12-11-2009 at 22:57
- Latin groove and sexy moves06-11-2009 at 00:17
October- French film and Asian food29-10-2009 at 23:01
- Discovering the world we live in22-10-2009 at 23:08
- Japanese onomatopoeia in Maastricht16-10-2009 at 09:20
- What women want09-10-2009 at 11:53
- Sueli's story02-10-2009 at 14:16
- Name Dropping01-10-2009 at 14:57
September- An Automotive Future21-09-2009 at 17:29
- Geothermal Thoughts18-09-2009 at 16:41
- Burgundian, or 'Naughty But Nice'10-09-2009 at 17:48
August- Castrati31-08-2009 at 16:25
- Taking the Train21-08-2009 at 16:30
- The pursuit of 'wellness'14-08-2009 at 14:17
- Eijsden, a jewel on the Meuse08-08-2009 at 09:04
- A template for Europe04-08-2009 at 09:03
July- In the land of Charlemagne24-07-2009 at 13:43
- Horses for Courses in the Energy Stakes17-07-2009 at 16:22
- Fruit & Vegetables10-07-2009 at 14:02
June- Mother India25-06-2009 at 14:10
- On the waterfront23-06-2009 at 12:12












21-11-2009 at 17:45
Thank you Rene for your thoughtful observations. Friendship is, as you say, a two-way street and unrelated to nationality... :-)